Witness it!
I am told to witness it and not react.
Becoming zen — steps I guess, or is it just the tool to have a sane existence?
When a lot of frustration usurps in me, they say you need to just see it, observe it, and let it pass. This passing can take hours or days or years if not dealt with in the right way. The usual method is we go into the story of what would have caused it, then if a person is involved then the actions which caused it is concentrated upon and he or she is cursed upon and thus there is a big web of stories in play. By now we are floating in the narrative, and that creates a lot of ripples in our very being. Frustration/ regret/ guilt and many more such feelings are what boils inside. We tend to not know what it leaves us with, a big ball or cloud of energy which when looked into could be in one part of the body, for me mostly I can detect them in the chest, throat, upper shoulders, or sometimes stomach. But mostly on the chest as heaviness and ensued by difficulty in breathing.
Being in the story or narrative just doesn't allow us to see what is happening or be a witness to it. This leads to sustained trouble and repetition of the story and thus a lot of negativity which built up towards the situation or person whom we think is involved. Wisdom is to understand that the situation or person is just a means of the trigger and that what we are feeling as this big heaviness is “our” thing to deal with. And more importantly, presented us to learn from. Most of the time, we aren't open to it and thus miss the embedded learning, but live in that story. Be bitter, be resentful, and thus lose our peace in all of this. Also, the fluidity and easiness with which some of the tough situations could be dealt with.
Why do I write these intimate “feelings” stuff and vulnerabilities which I observe within me? This could be a question that needs answered sometimes to assure myself and sometimes to the reader who would chance upon these. This could be a means by which you might understand certain stuff in an easier way than the path I followed where in I lived in resentment, angst, and constant complaint, which was labeled as many mental issues by myself more than others. Then with loads of effort and resources, the situations were understood and healed from or are in the process of it. But in the process of it, I lost a lot of joyful moments of mine on this earth plane and also I would have troubled a lot of my loved ones. Maybe you can save the trouble!
