Serendipities
You arent thinking of “settling down”, altough all around you is looking for a partner for you. The mindset then wasnt clear enough to be attached to a person. But as in a any middle class malayali families you are meeting suitors in person or as a family. Quite confusing it used to be in that position of choosing someone for life from the short meeting we used to have, seriosuly we didnt have social media even to find out about others, the most we had was Orkut then. Scary I would say, how did i survive that?
and Lo Serendipity hit me, a friend whom I used to hang out with was very interested in me as a suitor and proposed to the family instead of me. I went with it, because something in me said go ahead with it. What a discovery I would say, i wouldnt have survived many a vagaries that life had taken me through without that unwavering support of this serendipity.
You are a newly married and getting used to being a young professional. Some bodily changes and abbreations you take yourself to a doctor, who declares that the condition can present some difficulties in procreating. I was more concerned about what would happen if I cannot do it at all, it wasnt the motherly instinct at all. Cry and present the case to first serendipity and he challenges the doctors verdict to it. And Lo biggest serendipity knocks my door. A offspring. I often think if that doctor wouldnt have presented that possibility of barennes to me, I wouldnt have even tried to procreate. On hindsight the best decision of my life, was to give a chance to mother in me. Ofcourse the journey initial years of raising a kid was tumultous and exhausting, but so rewarding, I would suggest this to people atleast once. He transformed something in me, which I cannot name and made me more aware, learnable, receptive to randomness and loving.
You are young professional that too a software one when India is emerging into being a silicon valley power. You are at the right place and at the right time, by all industry stanadards. But never related to what I was doing, coding was a pain, never could get the vibe of it. Glad some geographical changes of living space because of family decision took me into newer pastures and a conference was attended, there one of speakers spoke of digital marketing space and things connected with it. Just as other topics discussed starting searching on it and there was a instant serendipitous connection with it. I realised I loved content and its the seed of everything digital. Started nuturing that interest and now I can say I am part of that set of professionals who loves doing what they do. Yes it does come to you from some quarters — being a engineer what do you do. But lo … I do what i do.. and i dont dig into your pocket for my goodies.
So at 47, when looking back, actually makes me realise its a string of serendipities.
