Sensitive — are we ?
Being so is a taboo or bane or blessing?
In my experience, being sensitive makes you a person not easy to deal with. It’s often told you need to handle her differently or she might get affected. I have been labelled so. The consequence of that is that you tend to hide your true emotions from others and put up a garb of toughness. In the early years, you learn that being difficult isn’t what you want to be, so dealing with emerging emotions aren’t something to be done, but instead just sweep them away. Actually, those emotions are invalidated, and thus, they tend to hide away. Or they are relegated to a place where it would be taken up when alone, and thus, it becomes all for yourself, which might turn into self deprecatory and self accusatory. Some times, it can involve another party or a situation, but as it was not dealt with at the moment and thus context gets lost, and it becomes just a sensitive persons very personal story.
This actually is punishing self.
Later to realise, being emotional is a blessing. You are actually allowing yourself to express what’s deep in you, which otherwise is getting masked and thrown to inner abyss of mind.
If you are vulnerable with another person showing your sensitivity that means you are home, you know that you can be so and your emotions wouldn’t be deprecated and held with required esteem. Basically bliss of being not judged.
On the contrary, when you see someone crying, mostly we ask them to stop, or cajol them to cover that up or even shut them up with reasoning or ignore. It’s total injustice to that emotion that needed expression at that moment and is invalid at any other point. And it passes if given space and is more liberating to someone who wants to express. But mostly nor acceptable, especially if you are a male. If you are a female, you are allowed, but you are labelled,
oh it’s one of her moods,
or it’s just that time of month.
We tell you .. let us express this tiny jitter and be dealt with… Otherwise, you may not know how you would be in a whirlwind of all those very tiny jitters that were swept under that carpet over time.
