R you curious or intrusive?
“ Be curious, not judgemental.” — Walt Walkman.
Most of us have a tendency to want to know certain things may be about someone especially, not exactly about things or places, for some reason. Wily! huh! That we are.
In my case at least, it can vary from curiosity — to knowing how a person perceives certain situations or how someone reacts to certain things in certain circumstances. Or it could be a whole plethora of things, a way to just engage without any intent, I am asking you a question so that you can go on and on till we find a point to engage or otherwise. Another classic case could be intrigue — to know how much you are affected by that situation, so I can draw some extent of mostly sadistic pleasure from it. It could just to make you aware of my interest in you, so that you also might get interested in me too, mostly in case of opposite genders interaction. Or being judgemental, you are telling me certain things about something of yours, I have already caricatured you in that particular avatar, and I might be struggling to hide that I am being judgemental.
I have noticed, that if it is curiosity to know more, there is a release of a certain set of chemicals, which gives that tingling feeling to yourself, that feels like “it feels really good to know some stuff off a person”, and yet another feeling of making him feel special. The connection seems to get better, if the other party is also willingly involved. And you might have another set of queries, which can be bombarded if the person is ready.
So end rest here is all in all positive.
Engagement without any intention, then anyways it would die down soon and both involved would be looking into their screens sooner. In today's world, that is our safe escape too.
End result: Negative, frustrated, ready to flee.
Pleasure drawing, inquiry: I am that classical aunty, who wants to know it all, I seem to emphasize with you, but actually thinking as “ U deserve this”, “How could you do it” “ People I know don't do such things, although i might, you don’t”
End result: Sympathies seemed to have gained, but not really!
Give and Take interaction: I ask you something, so you feel I like you. So you might also ask something so that I can boast to you. All in all a mutual admiration committee, but without going beyond the superficial details.
End result: Not happening, till it fizzles in no time. Leaves us exhausted. Of course may be a short-lived love interest. How long can this continue though.
Now the main villain is being plain judgemental, on hearing about the situation, you have already pictured the other in that situation and given a set of particular attributes and characteristics. Create a new avatar of him, which you can dislike or loathe as per your convenience that time. Now i am in my best mood, let me color you at its worst colors and dislike you too to that extend. This can give great fodder for gossip, so an unlimited plan for timepass guaranteed. Convolute and controt, a spicy story is made.
End result: Most spicy story ready for the tabloids. Here presents the most wanted gossip girl of Upper East Side!
We all go through these on different levels and situations. Don't tell me you don't! If so please give me a coupon Guru for your next discourse! Gold class, please!
