Empty Nest series — What I want you to know!
Empty Nest — That feeling of emptiness they say which you could feel once your fledgling moves out of your family home. I am yet to be hit by it, still a month to go for that. But the jitters are already on. Do I honor that… Not actually. Conditioned behavior of not handling the situations by its horn! But a bit better, the emotional waves keep hitting and the chest becomes cloudy and no words come out. So I assume I am still not able to express it.
I had been doing the market survey, once being a marketeer, you tend to go to the market for learning. Most of the recent empty nesters mused they felt that feeling of haziness for some months, you mop around and get better they say. Of course, feelings as we know come and go. How many times would it do its rounds is my question? My partner is making plans to do this and that, he knows how to keep me engaged. As I know, its a huge change and it is gonna be so, we love our kid to explore the world just as our parents set us to be. In our cases, we were still anchored to home, but with unnecessary ramblings and expectations. Would like to free our fledging of that and be anchored to the extent we both are enjoying but without any expectations, that being foremost.
There are certain things essential for us both to know and some of them are these.
Whatever is said and done, We are there for each other. No judgments, but initial outbursts and some unnecessary exchange of words would ensue, which are to be ignored as it is a habit, in cases of huge setbacks. Otherwise, we are here to listen but would kill the urge to rattle out advice or two. Have grown to understand that is not what we want in a situation and a big learning with you. But more necessarily I have gotten into the habit of taking your advice so please keep a listening corner for me, I might reach out on very essential stuff.
Keep us posted on your adventures, you know what I am referring to here. Have vicariously been living through your experiences, so it's hard to miss out on that.
Your body is your tool, please abuse it and nurture it well just afterward. Beetroot juices quite often and some cardio sometimes.
Not all people around us are friends, you know this better than us. There are some who would be happy or sad for you no matter what, keep them close, and others can be bitter and show that too, great ones to know of. But the most dangerous of them all are those who are not in sync with you, but be around for what fun, no idea! You can never detect this last category, or we detect these at a later stage, as they are great con artists, so learn from your first mistake with them and move on.
Keep the money transactions clean, better to share. None of us are that privileged to feed the other privileged. Some people like to be freeloaders, just for fun I guess, set your rules for them.
As we have learned, do everything with loads of love. That makes it joyful and enjoyable.
Always you come first, cry if you think you need to, ask for help when needed, and know that being anxious is just a phase, all of us have the strength in us to deal with the situation, you saw me and your dad dealing with it many times. Depression and trauma are words not to be used frivolously, but they are real, we all heal from it to be a better person.
There are more random stuff… anyways as you can see it's a series. So more to come your way.
