Candor — does it really help?

Radical candour is telling the whole truth in a non-hurtful way. Well! Now, hurting is very subjective. I can get hurt by the wrong usage of a word, and my friend could endure a lot of profanities directed towards him. How can a revelation or, quite simply, a statement without much insight be less hurtful to someone? I am actually amused.

It’s just incredibly hard to do. It takes time, nuance, and an excellent vocabulary. Plus courage. So, usually, people make up a soft lie, peddle it with a sad smile, and tell themselves it’s better that way.

I want to avoid lies in most cases, and more than that, I would like to know it as it is so I expect others to feel the same way. But most people like to not know “it” but want to put a veil of nonauthenticity over it and present it in good words and actually skewed truth, which is easy to digest. In the long term, it just does not help, is my observation.

Does this really help? I do not know how you feel or what makes it better or worse for you at all. I want to learn what would make the association more authentic. Ofcourse, for a short while, there would be some awkwardness and walking around on eggshells, but ultimately, you are either removing yourself from the situation and willingly being in that out of choice and know-it-all all. The others are mildly put, shocked by the expression when they…